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How happiness happens

Why an adaptive mindset is "win-win"


"Why companies are so focused on finding a resilient employee?

What does it mean being a resilient person?"

The Oxford dictionary defines Resilience as “The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties”. Resilience is the ability we all have to adapt and face difficult situations. It is a concept well known in psychology, but little explored in the social contexts.

There are people that seem to face difficulties easier than others. Perhaps they effort the same, but they adopt a different strategy to handle them. Resilience is a tool of the human mind that make us to be in peace with our emotions and survive to reality. It is part of a complex mechanism affecting many other factors such as the attitude and the behavior we adopt in front of problems, unpleasant situations and conflicts.

After lots of studies of the modern psychology, here are the 7 characteristics that the resilient people have.


1. Ability to identify the cause of problems

Resilient people adopt strategies to avoid that those problematic situations they have faced with could happen again. This means that resilient people are able to make great self-analysis because situations aren't critically for all at the same time, it depends on the perception that each of us have. The ability of recognizing what can make us to suffer is a skill to achieve.


2. They know how to manage their emotions

Resilient people are able to handle their thoughts in order to prevent negative emotions. They can avoid to get carried away by those pessimistic thoughts and can direct them towards positive experiences.


3. They keep calm in high pressure situations

Resilient people are able to concentrate and stay calm when in a situation of chaos and temporary confusion. They are aware that difficult moments can cross in our lives but they also know that these moments won't last forever.


4. They have confidence in themselves

Resilient people are self-confident, trust in their ability to overcome adversity and to be valuable persons.

They are realistic, they recognize the problem and act to succeed.


5. They are empathic

People who able to tackle the problems in the right way can understand the emotions of other people, understand what happens around them and act accordingly.


6. They are able to self-motivate

Resilient people are oriented to get satisfaction in life. They keep getting high motivation and they are able to identify and attract the positivity in their lives.

A situation can be challenging or it can be a disaster, that's just up to you!


7. They not ask WHY, but rather HOW

One of the most persistent features of people that get easily demoralized when facing problematical situations, is the feeling of guilty. They continue struggling trying to understand why that negative situation happened to them that torments them. They torment themselves with these thoughts rather then using their energy to analyze the situation and understand how to manage it.

Resilient people are analytical, they:

1. analyze the situation

2. define which tools they need to overcome the obstacle

3. succeed


So, here some powerful positive thoughts you can make yours to become a resilient person:

You have more resources than you think. Reality is complex, it is really unusual that you have experienced situations as one-size-fits-all. Think about you being multitasking in your daily life and focus on how you manage all your duties and responsibilities.


The situation you are worried about probably isn't so bad. Anxiety and fear don't help you seeing clearly the situation as it is. Relax and take breath, it will clear your mind helping you to see the reality by a different perspective.


You are more flexible than others tell you. Think about those situations where you were able to boost your confidence even though they were unfamiliar situations.

If after reading the article you think not being one of them, just remember that the resilience is in each of us.

You should just start looking at the reality from a different perspective. Problems will start to appear less drama and more challenges, based on the circumstances, they might be even pleasant.

The key? The Will to Change.


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